I have a confession to make. One that scares me. One that once I make it, it leaves me vulnerable. It exposes something about me that I’d rather not let you know. The truth is, I need you know. So here goes…. I ‘m a yeller. There, I said it. I yell. I yell at my children. I yell at my husband. I have even been known to yell at co-workers. Yep, I’m a yeller!
Phew, that felt good. Admitting I’m a yeller was the first step in making changes. You see I don’t always yell. I am not an angry person. I actually think I am rather pleasant. But, boy, I can get angry. When I do, you do not want to be anywhere near.
I get red faced. I might even have steam come from my ears. I’ve never looked. Whatever the case may be, I get angry. It’s almost like I step outside of my body and watch from the outside.
The calm, gentle and patient me watches on and begs the angry me to stop.
The me that was trained with classroom management strategies shakes her head at the angry me and tells her that she should know better.
The me that promised herself she’d never yell at her kids, tries to stand in the way.
Most of all, the me that has a big heart cries and wants to take it all back when its all over.
So, why am I telling you all this?
I’m a Yeller and Something Has to Change
The other day, my good friend, Amanda from Dirt and Boogers, came to me with this challenge she was accepting where she wasn’t going to yell for a whole year. She wanted support. She reached out to me, asked me to read her post, and wanted to know if I would join her support group.
I was all in.
There was just one problem. She told me on Tuesday and by the end of the day I had already yelled at the kids. Then on Wednesday, I did it again. I yelled some more. And I am sure you can guess what I did on Thursday. Yep. I yelled.
The challenge hadn’t even officially started and I was already 0 for 3. Not good at all. How was I going to do this? How was I going to make it a full year without yelling?
I’m a Yeller and I Make Excuses
For that first “unofficial” week, I made so many excuses. In fact, I have always made excuses. Mainly, because I don’t like to admit that I am a yeller. Mostly, because I am 90% patient. But fully, because I wanted to tell myself it was okay to yell. I realized in those three days, I kept saying things like…
Well, I yelled. But it’s because..
I couldn’t help yelling. The kids….
I had to yell. They wouldn’t…
But, …. did ….
You see. Excuses!
I have decided to change my outlook. I have made the choice to acknowledge my challenges. They are there. They will be hard and they will entice me to yell. But I can’t let them be excuses anymore.
I’m a Yeller and I Have Challenges
2. My children are not always with me, and their father is not known for being a calming person. Therefore, a reset button happens twice a week with any progress we have made.
3. I was not raised in a yell-free home.
I’m a Yeller and I Need Help
You see, I can’t do this alone. I need help. That is why I am joining Amanda’s support group on Facebook. There are already over 200 people that have signed up and everyone is incredibly supportive. I am hoping you will join me. You don’t have to do a year. You don’t even have to do a month. Honestly, if yelling isn’t your thing… I am talking to you too! Come support those of us that struggle with this every day.
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