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52 Sensory Challenges Every Busy Kid Needs

My three year old is busy. Busy. Busy. Busy. We’ve put her in a half day preschool because she seems to just crave activities. Yet, before she leaves the house …

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When you welcome a foster or adopted child into your home, you are often told to prioritize consistent rules and routines. And while we know these are important, its actually essential to prioritize trust and connection.

Many of these kids have trust issues, and they wont invest emotionally until they feel secure.
Jen’s daughter didn’t unpack her clothes for two weeks, communicating her hesitance to settle.

Her daughter even admitted once that, at the beginning, she tested her parents’ limits to gauge their commitment.

More than consistent rules, they need consistent presence to build trust

Simple gestures, like having breakfast together every day or ensuring youre home when they return from school, can make a world of difference.

So, focus on ensuring your kid feels safe and valued, shift your routines, and let the dishes pile up... for now.

Only after building that trust did Jen address the other aspects of home life.

Pushing these sooner wouldve been counterproductive.

After all, why should a child commit to a routine when they’re not sure how long theyll stay in a family?

Trust comes first; everything else will follow.

Join Jen and me for this week’s episode to find out more.

Tune in now (and grab your copy of Calm the Chaos if you haven’t already)!

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fine.
good.
awful.
🤷‍♀️🤷‍♂️

I know you have the best intentions.
I know youre asking cause
you really care about how their day went.

But sometimes... how was your day? is just a dead end.
It invites those one word responses and
It doesnt always set you up for real interaction.

👉Instead, try something a little open-ended.
Ask a question that will make em think,
that creates conversation and connection.

Asking about a specific event, subject, person, feeling, etc.
shows youre ready to hear about the details -
That youre truly interested in what they have going on -
& thats a great way to connect after a long day!

🫶Whats one question you can ask your kiddos?
(psst - this is great for partners + spouses too!)

PS - Share this with a friend & try this together!

When a child says, Homework is the worst!, a typical parent response might be something like,

Learning is a good thing.” or “Schools the most important!

But have you ever considered joining them in their temporary misery?

Instead of the usual pep talk, try: Yeah, I get it. I didn’t enjoy homework either.

Or maybe, Sometimes, it does feel like they give too much, doesn’t it?

At first, this might seem like youre fueling their negativity, but its quite the opposite. What youre doing is showing empathy.

Youre telling them, I see you.

The goal here is to convey understanding.

Its about letting them know that you recognize their feelings and struggles at that particular moment.

Challenging behaviors in kids often escalate because they feel misunderstood. They might think, No one gets how tough this is for me.

And then they intensify their actions, trying to make you see just how miserable they are.

And being able to offer understanding (Yes, I see why youre overwhelmed or upset.) is golden because it makes your child or teen feel seen and heard.

So, the next time they gripe about something? Maybe, just for a moment, join the resistance.

Isnt this insight fantastic?

It comes from Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart (@dr.annlouise.lockhart), a pediatric psychologist, parent coach, and business owner in San Antonio, TX.

Dr. Ann-Louise helps overwhelmed parents get on the same page and better understand their kids and teens. And she is one of our 10 experts who agreed to help you smoothly transition to this school year with your unique child.

We sat down with them and asked them all the same question:

“If you only had 3-5 minutes with a struggling parent of challenging kids entering a new school year, what is the one need-to-know piece of advice you’d share with them?”

And they shared a lot of gems like this one that will certainly help you and your kid manage school challenges.

So, let’s transform challenges into opportunities and make this school year one of growth, understanding, and resilience.

Join us for our FREE Back to School Expert Secrets.

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Feeling drained from the constant homework struggles?

Overwhelmed by the swift passage of the school year and the unique challenges it brings?
Youre not alone…

Not only do we at Calm the Chaos have your back, but we’ve also secured expert support for you.

We sat down with 10 parenting experts and posed this question:

“If you had just 3-5 minutes with a struggling parent of challenging kids entering a new school year, what essential advice would you share?”

Among this esteemed group is Cathy Cassani Adams, LCSW (@zenparentingradio).

Cathy co-hosts the Zen Parenting Radio podcast and authored the award-winning book, Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World. With her diverse background as a clinical social worker, certified parent coach, former elementary school teacher, and yoga instructor, Cathy offers a holistic perspective.

Eager to hear what Cathy (and other experts) recommends?

Join us for our FREE Back to School Expert Secrets.

Our panel is ready to provide solutions for every back-to-school challenge you might face.

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In a world full of noise, understanding why a child (or a teen) screams can be the first step to calming the chaos.

Always keep in mind that if they are screaming, it’s not to annoy you.

It’s a desperate call to be heard, for understanding, or release.

Its their unfiltered voice piercing through, asking us to listen, to understand.

Instead of punishing them and sending them to their room, what if we make it a rule in our families that every voice will be heard?

Make it a kind of promise - everyone’s voice matters.

It signifies your commitment to hear them out, even when their words are wrapped in overwhelming emotions.

Don’t miss this week’s episode with Jenifer Beaney.

As a parent of an adopted teenager, she talks about the challenges of raising foster and adopted kids, building trust and connection, and helping children find their voice.

Tune in now (and grab your copy of Calm the Chaos if you haven’t already)!

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