(Inside: To the Teacher of “That Kid” I see how exhausted you are as you walk out at the end of day. Take a breath and read this. That kid wants to tell you a few things today.)
I see you struggling with that kid. I see how exhausted you are as you walk out of the building at the end of the day, completely depleted. You wave that kid goodbye and let out a sigh of relief, even if its just for a brief moment of peace.
It’s okay, let it out, it was a hard day.
I hear your words. I hear you telling the teachers in the break room about how that kid is going to get the best of you. In fact, I heard that kid’s teacher last year say all the same things, and I am sure you remember hearing all about it too. In some ways, it brings a bit of relief to know it isn’t just you, right?
I want you know that I know exactly how you feel. I do, I promise. I am not here to judge you or to shame you . It is actually the complete opposite.
I know you are trying. I see it in your face, I see it in your posture. I know you are doing everything you know how to do, but some days it just doesn’t feel like it’s enough, right? Somedays, that kid is just too much for you to handle and I can tell its wearing you down. Believe me, I understand.
Take a breath, sit for a minute and read this. I have something you need to see. That kid wants to tell you a few things today.
A Letter to the Teacher of “That Kid” with the Difficult Behaviors
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“ Teacher, I need you!
I know I am hard to handle, and I take everything you have. I know I push your buttons in all the right ways that make you second guess what you are doing. But I need you. I need you to keep pushing me. I need you to set limits and help me understand them.
I know you don’t know me. I know if you did, we would get a long a lot better. But, please, teacher, I need you to fight to get to know me. I can’t tell you with my words what I need you to know, so I might act out instead. Take that as my sign that I need you. You might be all I have.
I know you have 30 other kids in class. I know they need you too. But, teacher, I need you. I need you to find my good qualities because those other kids don’t see them. My teacher last year didn’t see them, and most days, if not all, I don’t even see them.
I know I throw fits. I know I disrupt your class and what you had on your agenda for the day. But teacher, I need you to believe in me. I need you to believe that my actions are a cry for help, not an act against you. Please don’t take it personally. I need you to believe that I want to fit in, but just don’t know how.
I know I make it hard, but please, I need you. I need you to see me. I need you to see beyond that behavior, that meltdown, that action and I need you to see the kid behind all the “thats”. You might be the only one that can get to the real me. It might take time, It might take patience. You know, it might even take learning about something you know nothing about. But, teacher, I need you! I need you to give it your all to see me.
I know you went into teaching to make a difference. I am here to tell you, I am that difference. I am the one that needs you! I promise, if you reach me, you will change my life. You will make a difference like no test can measure.
You might not see the difference today or tomorrow, but I promise, if you see that I need you, you will make a difference.
~ signed “That Kid“
The truth is…
Kids are constantly being told they aren’t good enough, not smart enough, not calm enough, just plain and simple…
What would happen if instead of telling kids they are not enough, we changed the way we saw our children and we changed their inner language?
My new book, The Superkids Activity Guide, is aimed to empower ALL kids to speak up, share their superpowers and learn why they do the things they do so they can advocate for themselves!!
The book has a manifesto that I stand behind 100%. I believe all children should believe these things about themselves and often wish I had believed these things to be true as a child myself.
This is a small excerpt:
“Go ahead and say it, so you believe it: “I am a SUPERKID.”
There, didn’t that feel good? Go ahead and say it one more time, just to make sure it sinks in: “I am a SUPERKID.”
Before you start to think of all the reasons you can’t possibly be a superkid, I want to stop you. You see, even the most famous rock stars have doubt and don’t believe in themselves every day. This doesn’t mean they are any less super. And even superheroes have struggles and pitfalls. That doesn’t make them any less super, either. The truth is, despite your struggles, your mistakes, or your bad days…YOU ARE A SUPERKID. The Superkids Manifesto is yours. I want you to own it.
You are unique.
You are adventurous.
You are spirited.
You are creative.
You are fierce.
You are a SUPERKID.
You are going to conquer the world and I am going to help you every step of the way… ”
In order to make this movement touch every corner of the globe, we need YOU!!! To thank you for joining this movement, I have some fun gifts just for you if you pre-order before August 15th and join the Superkid movement!!!
Need Your Own Letter to the Teacher?
This post comes with a free printable to help with you in a bind.
I have made a simple printable for you that has this entire post in a simple and easy to display format. Place it on the fridge, in a frame or even make copies and hand out to everyone you think should read this!
This printable helps remind everyone they are needed!
Here is a sneak preview…
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- Download the checklist. You’ll get the printable, plus join my weekly newsletter! Click here to print your own Letter to the Teacher.
- Print. Any paper will do the trick, but card stock would be ideal.
- Plaster it in every teacher’s lounge and hand out at orientation.
More Resources to Help That Kid
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