You know that kid, right? I am sure you already have a picture in your head. Just the mere mention of that kid conjures up actions and behaviors that you can never forget. They leave a lasting impression and make it so that no matter where you are, how long its been, or how far removed you are from the memory, everything seems so fresh and current. That kid. Yes, that kid… how could you forget that kid.
There’s been a lot of talk about “that” kid, lately. There’s been a simple letter FROM a teacher of “THAT “kid, a letter to moms TO “that” kid and even a plea from a mom OF “that” kid. However, one thing seems to be missing from all of these stories… THAT kid.
Who, exactly, is THAT kid?
So, Who is That Kid? This is What You Probably Already Know!
That kid that never seems to pay attention to a word you are saying.
The teachers and staff at school know the name of that kid before the end of the first day of school. (They may have even been warned)
The teacher calls that kid unruly or out of control.
That kid disrupts the class with loud noises and nonsense sounds for no apparent reason other than to get attention.
That kid has been sent to the principals office more times than one can count.
The parents of that kid have a special parking spot reserved for meetings with the teachers (they are a regular).
That kid that seems to touch anything and everything no matter how many times you tell them to stop.
That kid never seems to stop talking, ever.
That kid is the one who chooses to sit alone in class because being too close to too many people is overwhelming.
That kid bites, kicks, hits, and even punches.
Relatives whisper about that kid when the parents aren’t around.
Other parents don’t want that kid at their kids’ birthday parties and most definitely don’t want their kids to be friends with “that kid.”
People often wonder “what’s wrong with that kid?”
You have seen that kid kicking and screaming in the grocery store and my have even called them “spoiled”.
Honestly, the list could go on for days. We all know that kid, right? We have been around that kid, or taught that kid, or had our children tell us about that kid. But do we REALLY know that kid? Do we ever really ever see the other side? Do we ever get the full picture? What about that kid?The side the parents of “that kid” would give everything they own for others to see?
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What You DON’T Know About That Kid
After 12 years in the classroom, I had my share of that kid. Each year there was another one, sometimes more than one. The teachers before me had warned me and the parents even dropped them off the first day of school with their heads hanging low.
But here’s the part that hit me in the gut: That kid knew it. They felt the disappointment, the frustration. They owned it.”
As a teacher, I was determined to find out what others didn’t know. The part people didn’t see or tell me about.
Then, it happened. I remember it vividly. I was on the phone with my best friend. Tears running down my cheek, my heart was heavy. It had been an especially rough day with my oldest son at school. Wait, it has been an especially rough year with my son at school. It was in that moment that I realized what was going on. It was then that I muttered… “I HAVE that kid.” I sobbed. In fact, I stayed in that mindset for quite some time. I felt defeated and failed. I felt as though I had done this to my kid. I had turned him into that kid. I was to blame. I wondered if anyone would ever get to know my kid! The kid I loved, the kid I saw at home, when all the stressors were gone. That kid. Do you know that kid?
That kid is also the one who sings at the top of her lungs in a voice that may very well be full of amazing potential the world may never hear.
That kid cries at movies when a character loses their best friend because “it just hurts so much.”
That kid knows the names of every constellation and can tell you when its the best time to see them.
That kid sees when others are hurting or needing help and quickly jumps in with a hand or a hug.
That kid will curl up in your lap for a good story or a tight squeeze any day of the week if the conditions are right.
That kid gets so worked up about going to birthday parties that they will literally get sick from the excitement.
That kid will bite their nails until they bleed just to try to avoid biting another person.
That kid worries for friends who aren’t on the bus or at school and can’t stop thinking about them until they see that they are okay.
That kid is highly intelligent and learned how to speak full sentences before the age of one. (but as they grew older, that kid couldn’t process the information fast enough and started to get frustrated).
That kid can tell the most elaborate stories and keep everyone on their toes with details of dragons and knights and damsels in distress.
That kid wants to know why no one likes them.
Which kid do you know? Are there things about that kid you wish others knew? Connect with me on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Pinterest, Instagram or subscribe by email. I can’t wait to hear about that kid you know. I would love to hear and I would love for you to tell the world their story! Share your story about that kid, so others can know them well.
Don’t forget to read the letter to the teacher of that kid! It is a must read for any teacher, parent or caregiver!
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