Some days are hard. Some days are a struggle. Then, some days knock the floor out from underneath you. They are the days that they don’t tell you about before you become a mother. They are the days that take everything out of you. I’d like to share something with moms everywhere for those really tough days.
Here’s the thing…
I see you.
I see your red puffy eyes. I can tell you’ve been crying.
I see you trying to muster a smile. I can tell you are trying so hard to be strong.
I see you sneaking away to wipe the tears. I can tell you’ve done this a lot today.
I see your slumped shoulders. I can tell today took everything you had.
I see the tear in the corner of your eye. I can tell you can’t hold back anymore.
I hear you.
I see your frustrated texts to your best friend.
I see your Facebook updates about how hard it is.
I see your email about the day you’ve had.
I see you.
I am here to say I feel you! I have been there. In fact, I’m right there with you today. I know that feeling of regret when you’ve said something you didn’t mean to in the moment. I know that feeling of sorrow when your child tells you they hate you. I know what you are feeling.
I don’t really have a lot to say, except for one thing.
I feel you!
I want to send you one mama hug. Maybe we are the best of friends. Maybe, we’ve just met. Perhaps, we’ve never met at all, but I feel you and I want you to know that someone is out there thinking you are a great mom! You can do this.
Tomorrow will be better. You are a good mom.
Your tears will dry up. You are a good mom.
Your sorrow will go away. You are a good mom.
Your regret will turn to reflection. You are a good mom.
Your child will love you and hug you again. You are a good mom.
That’s right. You are a good mom. If you know someone else that needs to hear this today, pass it on.
Because, doesn’t everyone need to hear they are a good mom?
Doesn’t everyone deserve to know they aren’t alone?
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They way you feel today, feels as if it will never go away. It feels like you are not enough and you have failed your family. From the meltdowns after school to the messy living room covered with toys… today, it all seems to be too much. Maybe you resort to ordering pizza and putting on a movie or maybe you hide in the bathroom for a few minutes to get away. Whatever it is, you are finding your strength! You are not alone either.
I recently read this wonderful book by a good friend, Happy You Happy Family. It was eye-opening about the simple tiny changes the author speaks of making in your life so that these hard days don’t hit you so hard. Of course, they still happen, of course you still struggle, but each day is a little easier and each day brings you more strength.
If you are like me, and you can’t seem to find your way, your strength or your smile, I highly recommend this book! The tips, she calls them the 10 Secrets to a Happier You, are so much more than “exercise more” and “eat healthier”. They are so much more and so much stronger!
16 thoughts on “Dear Mom on Those Really Tough Days”
having a hard time keeping the tears at bay today, thank you for the hug.
Oh So glad this helped someone else. 🙂
i really needed to read this tonight. Today. Was. Hard. I’m looking forward to tomorrow. The tears won’t be there. Thank you so much. This tired momma appreciates this more than you know.
Every mom needs this reminder. It is so true that our regret turns to reflection so that we can get it right the next time. I’m a mom- flaws and all. Mistakes are for learning. Thanks for reminding all moms that they are valuable. We truly are the thermostats in the house; we have to feel great to ensure that atmosphere in the home is great. I hope you hug yourself too. 🙂
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Have a wonderful day.
(*sniff, sniff) You will never know how much this post was needed today. So much so, that I am crying all over again (for the third time today). Thank you, from the bottom of my heart <3
Hugs mama! Hugs!
I had a really tough day yesterday and was beating myself up for something I said to my 12 year old son. We had a not so great homeschooling day, and the day became worse and worse. I shut down, and there were tears from both. Then I woke up and read this! Thank you so much! These words came at the right time
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Thanks for the encouragement! I have a child with sensory disorder. Today was a very trying day for me! I saved this post to read when I needed it most. Thanks for being so honest on your blog.
Thank you so much for this. I’ve had the worst day with my spirited 4yo son. I totally lost it and shouted at him, which I hate doing and now I’m sat feeling so guilty. I really needed to read this to IGJT. Thank you X
I really needed to find this today. Thank you so much…. I think I love you.
I needed this today. Our 9 year son was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes 4 months ago. My once carefree child is now angry at the world and is shutting himself of from his friends and us. He has angry outbursts, mad that he has to get 6 or more shots a day, that he can’t eat when he wants and what he wants, and that I am constantly nagging him to check his blood sugars. Last night was bad– full on temper tantrum, an anger in his eyes that Ive never seen before. I know this is our new normal and that it will be ok but right now, it just stinks. Just feel like I’m the worst mother because my son has these outbursts.
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