Some days are hard. Some days are a struggle. Then, some days knock the floor out from underneath you. They are the days that they don’t tell you about before you become a mother. They are the days that take everything out of you. I’d like to share something with moms everywhere for those really tough days.
Here’s the thing…
I see you.
I see your red puffy eyes. I can tell you’ve been crying.
I see you trying to muster a smile. I can tell you are trying so hard to be strong.
I see you sneaking away to wipe the tears. I can tell you’ve done this a lot today.
I see your slumped shoulders. I can tell today took everything you had.
I see the tear in the corner of your eye. I can tell you can’t hold back anymore.
I hear you.
I see your frustrated texts to your best friend.
I see your Facebook updates about how hard it is.
I see your email about the day you’ve had.
I see you.
I am here to say I feel you! I have been there. In fact, I’m right there with you today. I know that feeling of regret when you’ve said something you didn’t mean to in the moment. I know that feeling of sorrow when your child tells you they hate you. I know what you are feeling.
I don’t really have a lot to say, except for one thing.
I feel you!
I want to send you one mama hug. Maybe we are the best of friends. Maybe, we’ve just met. Perhaps, we’ve never met at all, but I feel you and I want you to know that someone is out there thinking you are a great mom! You can do this.
Tomorrow will be better. You are a good mom.
Your tears will dry up. You are a good mom.
Your sorrow will go away. You are a good mom.
Your regret will turn to reflection. You are a good mom.
Your child will love you and hug you again. You are a good mom.
That’s right. You are a good mom. If you know someone else that needs to hear this today, pass it on.
Because, doesn’t everyone need to hear they are a good mom?
Doesn’t everyone deserve to know they aren’t alone?
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They way you feel today, feels as if it will never go away. It feels like you are not enough and you have failed your family. From the meltdowns after school to the messy living room covered with toys… today, it all seems to be too much. Maybe you resort to ordering pizza and putting on a movie or maybe you hide in the bathroom for a few minutes to get away. Whatever it is, you are finding your strength! You are not alone either.
I recently read this wonderful book by a good friend, Happy You Happy Family. It was eye-opening about the simple tiny changes the author speaks of making in your life so that these hard days don’t hit you so hard. Of course, they still happen, of course you still struggle, but each day is a little easier and each day brings you more strength.
If you are like me, and you can’t seem to find your way, your strength or your smile, I highly recommend this book! The tips, she calls them the 10 Secrets to a Happier You, are so much more than “exercise more” and “eat healthier”. They are so much more and so much stronger!