(Inside: Parenting an angry child takes a lot of hard work and lots of patience. This is full of some of the best parenting tips for parenting an angry child!)
I guess by now the word is out that my child can get a little, no a lot, angry.
It’s also pretty known by now, if you are have been around this year that I don’t have any trouble digging through the trenches with you and sharing the journey of parenting an angry child.
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When I looked over all of my parenting posts from this year, it became quite clear that the most popular posts where the ones with a certain theme… angry children.
And I get it… Parenting an angry child comes with its own unique set of challenges… And tips like these are not in any of the normal parenting books!
So I decided to gather my top 10 tips for parenting an angry child and put them all in one place for you to have them at your fingertips.
Top 10 Best Tips for Parenting an Angry Child
1. 15+ Sure Fire Ways to Calm an Angry Child– This post has always been one of my most popular, and it’s reached hundreds of thousands of families.
I am not sure if I should be sad that there are so many others having these same struggles or happy that they are finding positive ways to love these children and help them cope and regulate during and after meltdowns.
I love how this post includes some simple preventative ideas as well as in the moment strategies.
2. Lego Calm Down Jar– This one isn’t as much a “parenting” posts as it is a tool for your toolbox.
There are a lot of “calm down jars” out there, but one reason I think this post has been so successful is because of the explanation of what they are and how you can use a calm down jar to help your child dealing with anger or big emotions.
3. Sensory Hacks to Calm an Angry Child– Again, this is more a toolkit than it is a post on how to parent your angry child. However, as popular as it has been, it has proven that having a toolkit of ideas handy is one of the best things you can do to help your child in the moment.
Have you noticed a theme in the top three posts of the year?
It’s pretty clear that building your toolkit of sensory tools and calm down strategies is vital when parenting an angry child.
I can honestly say that the lego calm down jar, the cardboard rocket and our essential oils have been the most effective in our toolbox this year, but I could not have made it this year without talking about some of the touchy parenting topics that come up with an angry child.
4. What is Sensory Processing? Boy, do I wish I had known about this years ago when I was trying to understand my angry child!
Not to say that all children that have intense emotions have sensory struggles, but knowing about them can be super helpful in figuring out the best parenting strategies and sensory strategies to try.
5. Decoding Everyday Kid Behaviors – This is one of my favorite series I’ve done on this site. With over 30 other parents and educators, we dug deep to understand the root cause of so many common childhood behaviors, including anger and aggression. This is an excellent starting place for any behavior that might have you baffled.
6. Punishing (Spanking) an Angry Child– Just over the holidays I was told (again) how spanking my child would make him better and help him stop slamming doors and yelling at us.
When you are parenting an angry child, it can be a huge struggle trying to figure out what discipline methods to use, but this post dives deep into one particular method of punishment.
7. What You Don’t Know About “That Kid” – More often than not, “that kid” is pretty angry and has a lot of aggression. Many times, that kid is very misunderstood and wishes others could see the child they really are.
I know as a parent, there are so many times I wish others could see my kid for who I see, especially him.
8. 5 Simple Words Any Parent Needs To Hear (Especially During a Meltdown)– I don’t want to spoil the surprise… so just read it, if you haven’t. I wish I could plaster this one across billboards for mothers everywhere to read!
9. Why I Refuse to Tell You How to Be a Better Parent Man, on those really bad days, not only do you need to know you aren’t alone… you need to know there are some things you are doing right! Hopefully this post gives you that!
10. Peaceful Parenting with Family Meetings– This simple 3 step process has been instrumental in helping us deal with family “blow-ups” and talk about how to handle the situations in the future. We have worked together as a family to build respect and understanding for everyone in the house so that we can have a more peaceful home.
But when we see that we have an angry child, we really aren’t seeing the whole picture…
Your child’s behaviors are much like this iceberg. On the surface you see…
* a child that is clingy and doesn’t like to be alone,
* a child that crosses his arms and shuts down
* a child that is scared of ever getting a wrong answer
* a child that doesn’t like to go new places
Or a child that becomes “hyper” when new guests arrive at your house.
It’s easy to look at these behaviors as just what we see. It’s easy to make assumptions about why our children are acting out or doing inexplicable things.
However, I challenge you to look for the other 85%. Look deeper.
What’s hiding behind what you see?